This is Part 1 of the MESS concept, check back tomorrow for Part 2.
Lately, I have noticed in triple form the imbalanced levels of multiple moods swings coming from my multiple imbalanced teenagers. If you tried to track each emotional change, within an hour you would suffer some sort of emotional whiplash! Their overly- stated, moody dislike of homework, chores, and the brother breathing next to them is over the top. The sweet tooth, junk food craving, gaming, cell phone, shopping, sports playing, staying up late teen’s in my home are clearly out of balance.
The expressive drama that streams from teenagers is hardly unnoticeable. A teenagers rapid growing body parts and acne faces are side shows compared to watching their internal and external drama’s unfold. It’s not unusual to hear my teens exaggerated rants and actions proving their emotional state is a bit of a mess. One minute your held captive by their high energy comedic behavior only to be told by a slamming bedroom door that they want to be alone! Teens are just messed up bouncing balls of hormonal human freaks!
I remind myself that teens will be teens but I feel they need to take some responsibility. I want them to understand while they may be feeling an emotional mess that they have the ability to gain some control. I feel the need to throw them a life line- An easy, mental coping skill to regulate their personal choices, to gain a better balanced for a happier existence… For everyone’s sake. Considering the word mess and teen seem to co-exist beautifully, the coping acronym I will use for easy recall is the word M.E.S.S. Works out perfectly. Coincidence? I think not!
Let me preface the importance of assuring our teeny-boppers that they can choose to control areas in their life which make them feel better in 4 easy self- evaluation steps. So the next time you shout “check yourself, buddy!” They won’t look down at their zipper or huff and puff out the door. Next time, they just may actually take some personal inventory and get those emotions under control.
The Teen MESS System-
M is for MOOD- Mood check! Everyone experiences multiple moods throughout a day.
Sudden extreme mood changes or outburst both positive and negative may be due typical hormone changes, but it may be self-imposed by the unbalanced choices you are making. Making a conscious effort of keeping your physical health balanced will also help balance out your emotional state of mind in a positive way. Consciously balancing your life style will help you control outbursts and free you from conflicts and drama.
However, If you struggle everyday and find yourself continuously stuck in a negative or angry mood, or extreme feelings of sadness, anxiety, isolation, please alert your parents or reach out to someone you trust.
E is for ENERGY- Evaluate eating, sleeping and physical activity. Balance your intake of healthy food vs. junk food, get plenty (8-10 hours) of uninterrupted sleep. Keep all technology out of your bedroom to help your brain to get to sleep faster! Physical exercise during the day will not only strengthen your body but will help you sleep and reduce mood swings.
S for SOCIAL- inventory your social practices. Balance your time spent between friends, family, technology, and time alone. It is equally important to have human contact as time spent alone with your own thoughts.
S for SCHOOL- balance your school work load by staying by paying attention in class, keeping notes, and completing homework/projects on time. Do not risk your future by getting distracted by teenage nonsense.
Never forget that Life is a balancing act, so check yourself often!