Octomom = Society's Failure

Is anyone else troubled by this Octomom situation? It’s wrong on so many levels.

From the IVF doctor who knowingly implanted more embryos than he should have, to how Nadya willingly took a risk (she and the babies) to have them, to the Angels in Waiting offer and now the current drama. What is wrong with the world?

First, I have no problem with a single woman who wants to have a baby and chooses to go the IVF route. That’s fine with me as long as she has a means to care for the child and give it love and a caring home. I think what the doctor did was unethical and irresponsible, much like how I feel about Nadya’s actions.

When I first heard about Angels in Waiting’s (AIW) generous offer, I felt badly for all the people who are good parents and need some help but wouldn’t be getting any. It’s really a tough situation. While I worry about all her children, especially the new ones, the bottom line is that she got herself into this mess. Why she anyone (including taxpayers) have to pay for her poor decisions? I can’t help but think that Nadya knew what she was doing from the beginning.

Why should her irresponsible behavior be rewarded? That’s what’s happening, isn’t it? The media is perpetuating the situation by continuing to focus on it. This seems to be exactly what Nadya wants. Clearly, it’s not the children’s welfare that she wants or she would not have had eight babies knowing the risks involved much less turn away the generous AIW offer.  While good people are stepping in to help her with gifts, money and childcare, Nadya doesn’t seem the least bit appreciative. Instead she comes off as a greedy, selfish, cocky, and narcissistic woman in need of professional psychological help, almost as if she expects all the help.

I have to wonder why she turned down the help? Has her ego grown out of control? Did she realize all the help meant more eyes judging her parenting ability and perhaps she’s hiding something? Is she so wrapped up in herself that she’s ignorant to the needs of her children? Or is she just stupid? Could her decision be viewed as negligence? The problem is that if she is having a difficult time handling interpersonal relationships with people who are trying to help, how does she act under pressure? I have four children and things can get a little hairy…much less 14 with 8 being high-risk newborns!

What message is all this sending to our children? It’s ok to act irresponsibly because society will step in and help you out. How about, do something crazy and the media will pick it up and give you all the fame and fortune you’ve imagined!

Don’t get me wrong, I feel for these children, but I also feel for people desperately trying to conceive, looking to adopt or good parents just trying to make ends meet. Perhaps it’s time for the media to push the state of California to act responsibly on behalf of the children and as an example to the nation.

Unless this woman is a super hero, there is no way humanly possible to provide a high level of care for all these children alone.  Her judgement is obviously in question and it's time for CPS to step in so that the children can have a greater chance for a quality future.

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